Beyond the Book!
Great morning, Champion—welcome to BUI.
On this Freedom Friday, I have a simple request—allow this quote to become the foundation of a new mentality going forward.
Because life does not ask your permission before it presents challenges. You and I both know that negative experiences are not optional. They will show up. They will interrupt. They will test how you think, what you believe, and who you are becoming. The question is never whether something negative will happen. The question is always what you are going to do with it when it does.
This is where your discipline must take over your emotions. You cannot always control what happens to you, but you are always responsible for how you process it. That distinction changes everything. When you choose to extract something positive, you are not denying reality. You are defining your response to it. You are deciding that the moment will not be wasted, even if it was not wanted.
Now let me be clear, because this is where many people get it wrong. You are not being asked to pretend that pain feels good. You are not being told to smile through suffering as if nothing happened. That is not strength. That is suppression. That is what people call “toxic positivity,” where truth is ignored in favor of an overemphasis on staying positive to the point that it dismisses, suppresses, or invalidates real emotions, struggles, or hardships. That approach does not heal you. It is harmful delay.
What you are practicing with this new mentality is something far more powerful. You are engaging in disciplined thinking. You are choosing to reframe the experience without distorting it. You acknowledge what happened. You identify what it cost you. Then you search for what it taught you, how it sharpened you, or what it revealed about you. That is cognitive reframing in its purest form. You are not changing the event. You are changing the meaning you assign to it.
You must understand this. Mentality and meaning drives mindset. Mindset drives behavior. Behavior drives results. If you allow a negative experience to define you, it will begin to direct you. However, if you redefine the experience, you take your power back. You move from being a victim of the moment to a student of it. That shift is where growth begins.
Take inventory of your recent challenges. Do not rush past them. Sit with them long enough to learn from them. Ask yourself what was exposed. Ask yourself what needs to be strengthened. Ask yourself what will never be repeated. That is how you convert pain into progress. That is how you ensure that nothing you go through is in vain.
Because at the end of the day, you are going to feel something either way. You can feel defeated, or you can feel developed. You can carry the weight of what happened, or you can carry the wisdom from it. One keeps you stuck. The other moves you forward.
So here is the real question. When life delivers something negative, will you allow it to take from you… or will you require it to teach you?
Until next time, my friend. Be Great. Be Grateful—and Do the Work!
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This book will definitely be a powerful guide for seeking minds! It doesn’t just inspire; it challenges, grounds, and reshapes how we think about growth, strength, and purpose. The depth, honesty, and reflection woven throughout will meet readers exactly where they are and gently lead them forward with clarity and intention.
Today’s quote for me is a needed reminder that strength is not the absence of struggle, but the willingness to remain grounded and honest within it. Some of the most defining moments of growth are born in weakness, not because we feel powerful, but because we choose to persist, reflect, and become more authentic through it.
That’s beautiful! “not the absence of struggle, but the willingness to remain…”
Day 1 quote hits me to continue to realize that you cannot get something from nothing. God requires praise and thanksgiving and the faith that I have in Him, in order for me to be readily able to receive what it is He has for me. I absolutely love this Quote.
“Integrity is not what others know about you; it is walking in what you know about yourself that others do not, according to standards of morality and ethicality.”
This challenged me to look inward instead of outward. It reminded me that who I am in private matters more than how I am perceived in public. Integrity is not something I claim, it is something I practice daily, through choices no one else may ever see. When my inner convictions align with my actions, I am walking in truth, regardless of recognition.
So when the Most High goes looking for a kingdom woman, I will be in position, secure in my identity, inside and out.
Good morning, and thank you for this word. I receive it!
What resonates deeply with me is the reminder that purpose requires participation. I’ve come to understand that faith isn’t proven by intention alone, but by consistent action—showing up, doing the work, and allowing myself to be shaped in the process. I don’t take lightly the idea that blessings carry responsibility and that growth demands discipline, alignment, and courage to change.
This message challenges me to be honest about what I’m asking for—and even more honest about who I’m becoming to sustain it. I’m committed to honoring the partnership between divine provision and personal responsibility, knowing that true progress comes when faith and action move together.
Grateful for the reminder. Ready to do the work.
Be well. Be grateful. And onward.
This is perfect timing – it is aligned with what we talked about in the Reading Room…being obedient, the courage to change and the ability to remain consistent through it all and most importantly authentically be me no matter what it looks like or feels like…these are lessons learned!
Day 4 Quote: Thank you for this – we all have choices and are accountable for them. We are more than conquerors and must overcome to become!
There was a time when I thought I did not deserve happiness, so I did not work to achieve it, but once I realized I Deserved it, I strive for it now. My purpose is the happiness, that I deserve and I deserve to share it with others.
Doc,
Before reading your Insight into the quotes I often like to think through my own experience. I’m currently digging deeper into the concept of asking seeking and knocking and much of what I study is covered in this quote. From that standpoint, this quote serves as confirmation to the process I’m currently working through. God bless you, sir!
How wonderful it is to know that The Almighty wants us to have a joyful happy life. He so lovely and preciously designed it in each of us from our existence. I’ve learned that true happiness comes from within and not from outside sources, material possessions or people. Knowing my worth, believing that I truly deserve happiness and aligning my life with the tools, plans, ways and purpose that The Almighty has designed for me to follow, will inspire me to push forward daily and pursue the process to achieve this beautiful life of inner peace and happiness.
Never really thought about how much is behind a quote… This is Brilliant 👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Powerful reminder. This really landed with me.
What stood out most is the clarity that success isn’t some mysterious lightning strike—it’s engineered. When teaching, tools, training, and techniques are aligned, progress stops feeling random and starts feeling repeatable. That reframes responsibility in a healthy way: not pressure, but ownership.
I’ve learned the hard way that motivation alone isn’t enough. Without structure, even good intentions stall. But with the right framework in place, effort compounds—and results follow. This is a timely reminder to stop hoping for momentum and keep building systems that produce it.
Appreciate the wisdom and the challenge. Staying committed to preparation, alignment, and doing the work—especially when no one’s watching.
Grateful for the insight. Let’s keep building on purpose. 💪🏾
I’ve often heard it said, “I’ll do it tomorrow!”Perhaps, I’ve said that before myself. I’m sure! I’m learning that “SUCCESS” requires action on my part, not procrastination and less of the outward appearance of potential. I cannot achieve SUCCESS properly or reach my goals without these FOUR BUILDING BLOCKS, TEACHING, TOOLS, TRAINING and TECHNIQUES which WORKS. They have been defined, explained, and proven. I now embrace them as new knowledge to improve myself. There is a saying: “ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS!” My actions now will cause positive things to happen when I use these specific TOOLS. Being consistent, focused, aligned and following the teachings will bring forth SUCCESS as I endeavor to keep going, glowing and growing.
Dr. Akins…Powerful man! A daily reminder for me that Kingdom culture is lived, not just believed. It calls us to understand the who, what, when, and where of obedience in daily life, and the responsibility to be righteous in every thought and action. Just as important, it challenges us to continually examine the why behind what we do so we remain aligned and avoid disobedience. Continuous physical and spiritual introspection is an essential and should be a non-negotiable.
This quote really opened my eyes to how kingdom culture operates on both planes. I now understand how effective and important it is in our spiritual life, physical life and daily walk. It’s even essential in building success and integrity. The more we embrace obedience and live our lives as the Almighty has instructed, we can begin to elevate, progress and duplicate the things he demonstrated.
This quote took me to class! As I read and reflect, I’m struck by how powerful it is to not only have the book in my hands, but to also have access to the understanding behind it, and a living connection to the author’s intent. That connection transforms reading into alignment. It turns words into daily practice. “Living each day with purpose, on purpose,” speaks volumes when paired with consistent guidance that sharpens my awareness and informs my daily deeds.
Living with purpose grounds my life in meaning. It anchors my decisions to values that outlast emotion, convenience, and circumstance. Purpose answers my why, it gives weight to my choices and direction to my days. But living on purpose is where responsibility comes alive. It requires intention. It calls me to move beyond routine and reaction and to consciously choose how I show up, how I respond, and how I invest what has been entrusted to me.
This journey reminds me that life is not meant to be managed on autopilot. Each day is a gift that carries assignment and opportunity. When I pause to reflect, apply what I’m learning, and move with deliberation, my days stop blending together and begin to build something meaningful. Information alone is valuable, but understanding, paired with connection and daily application, is transformative.
Living with purpose gives direction. Living on purpose gives motion. Together, they form a life lived by design, not default. And when each day is approached intentionally, guided by wisdom, supported by teaching, and built alongside those willing to hand you the bricks, life becomes something you don’t just experience, but something you consciously and faithfully build.
Thank you for handing us the bricks!
This beautiful quote has really inspired me to see and understand my own self-worth. It’s so amazing to know that each of us are different, but so special, wonderfully made and designed for a purpose. We were not born to just EXIST, DRIFT, do what we want to do and have a life of IDLENESS. PURPOSE gives us directions, value, action, a driven mind, desire to move, and a strong press inwardly to move forward. I now realize that The Almighty had purpose and positive intentions for all of us even before we knew ourselves. We are responsible for our own individual purpose in this life. We must take on the challenge, seek The Almighty for guidance to discover, develop, and deliver our own individual PURPOSE and MANIFEST it on PURPOSE.
I had a similar conversation this week with someone, and this quote answered my question! This speaks to me about how many people move through life on autopilot, reacting instead of reasoning, repeating instead of reflecting. They inherit opinions, behaviors, and beliefs without ever sitting with them long enough to ask, “Is this true? Is this mine? Is this aligned?” So what looks like “thinking” is often just noise, habit, or emotional reflex. 🧠
It also reminds me that real thinking is work. It requires stillness, humility, and the courage to question yourself before questioning others. Many avoid that work because it disrupts comfort. Thinking forces responsibility, and not everyone wants to be responsible for who they are becoming. 🫣
And quietly, the quote turns the mirror back on us. It asks:
Am I truly thinking… or just reacting?
Am I discerning… or just echoing?
Because once you commit to thinking deeply, you can no longer live shallowly. And that kind of awareness changes everything!
Today’s quote (February 6, 2026) provides beautiful accountability to the intellectual discipline of critical thinking that is supported by objective curiosity, introspective reflection, and open-mindedness. Proverbs 4:7 even admonishes its readers to “get understanding”, holding fast to the knowledge that the word “understanding” at its etymological core speaks of standing in the middle of a subject and being surrounded by the subject/topic to perceive the subject/topic clearly. This also requires discernment which is the ability to mentally distinguish one thing from another. Today’s quote was a welcomed reminder that I owe it to myself to use my sound mind for its intended purpose and not allow mental laziness or familiarity to compel me to neglect to take the time to truly think. Your wisdom is appreciated Dr. Akins!
I’ve benefited greatly from this quote about THINKING. The mind plays a vital part to our individual character. Our emotions can be very tricky when we respond or react to different situations. We are responsible for being good steward over our minds. We represent ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It also necessary to be attentive to our daily walk. When we fail to monitor our thoughts, we can easily open our mouth to careless, loose, or disrespectful sayings and behavior. I’ve learned that every comment or statement said by someone doesn’t deserve a response. It’s easy to speak negative and positive out of the same mouth when our thinking is out of control and not disciplined. I’m learning that it is so important to THINK BEFORE I SPEAK. Failing to do so can result to NEGATIVE NON THINKING REACTIONS.
This book is like no other. I have found the strength I thought I had lost but Dr. Akins, your powerful teachings in BUI on Monday and Tuesday evenings, and your quotes have been a jolt to my spirit, physical and mental being. Thank you, sir.
Dr. Akins? You’re taking me there! This one landed in my bones!
This quote reminds me that not every victory feels victorious. Some wins come with exhaustion, sacrifice, and scars, and instead of celebration, all I feel is relief that I survived. I’ve learned that success doesn’t always announce itself loudly; it often shows up as quiet endurance. Staying faithful, forging forward, and refusing to quit when quitting would have been easier is sometimes the real triumph. If I endured the season and remained standing, that alone carries meaning. Survival, in those moments, is not failure; it is success still unfolding.
There were a few times in my life when winning felt really good. My chest was out with a big grin on my face, pats on my back, applause and celebration just to sum it up. However, when I think about it, there was always a price to pay whether through physical pain, mental anguish, emotional abuse or other forms of distress. I finally came to realize that any form of winning comes with a price, pressure, hurts, pain and much, much more. Dr. Akins you explained it very well in your meaning. There has been times in my winnings I felt low in spirit because of the pressures, endurance, expectations and things I had to suffer to keep pressing. Sometimes my own personal sufferings, environment, family, and friends, were lacking in support. I’ve come to realize that you have to encourage yourself. I have to know what I want and believe that I deserve it and don’t stop until I obtain it. I have to do the work.
WHEW! That one stood up and spoke!
This reminds me that every bold declaration carries resistance by design. Speaking intention doesn’t create ease, it initiates engagement. The greater the vision, the greater the pressure that follows, not because something is wrong, but because what is spoken must be tested to become real. Resistance isn’t a sign to retreat; it’s confirmation that the declaration has weight. The struggle didn’t come to stop me, it came to prove that what I said matters.
There has been times in my life when I sought the easy way out as through some things could be done a different or easier way, but this quote begs to differ. I can really appreciate the enlightenment and clarity of this quote. I admit this is another powerful eye opener. It explains and clarifies the meaning, expectations, requirements and hard work needed to push harder and resist the pressures that tries to force me to give up under severe pressure. The affirmations that I tell myself can’t be just spoken from the surface out of my mouth, but with bold, deep, penetrating beliefs, truths and enforced meaning from my inner voice. I have to always fight with confidence, determination, strength and will power, forcing the drive within me to constantly press and resist as I keep building, resisting and consistently working.
As I mature in the knowledge, ways, and teachings of the scriptures, I’m learning that it’s so important to get to personally know yourself. Concern yourself with just YOU and you alone is more than can be handled sometimes. Knowing who I am, loving myself, knowing my worth, value and actually telling it to myself was an INNER SONG I had to learn through coaching how to sing. It was so valuable to myself just to validate ME. As I began to be coached and taught how I should please The Almighty and align with his ways and will, the light came on. Seeing myself from the inside out really mattered.This was where my VALIDATION was hidden. Looking in the ACCOUNTABILITY MIRROR and telling the truth to myself about myself really made a huge difference and change. My best audience became myself. I no longer needed validation from others. I COULD SEE ME! Self esteem, love for me, confidence, a new mindset and growth began to flourish. NOT QUICKLY, but gradually. Wow! The small steps were real and emotionally encouraging. The affirmations I told myself daily continued to flow and shine within me. It’s still taking coaching, teaching, scripture and guidance to continually improve daily, but clapping my OWN HANDS REALLY MAKES A DIFFERENCE.
One can become intoxicated with the applause and accolades and once they are silenced, confidence in oneself can and in most cases dwindle. Learn as king David did, “Encourage yourself in the Lord.” I am my worst enemy or by best friend.
This speaks to where I am at this very moment, tomorrow, and the next day. I’ve learned that I don’t need permission, applause, or validation to keep going. I encourage myself, by staying COMMITTED TO THE WORK, and trust the process I’ve CHOSEN. Even when no one is watching, my CONSISTENCY is speaking for me. I am becoming my own evidence, grounded, confident, and secure in who I am becoming.
The only way I will rise is when I make a mistake, knowing it’s mine, no excuses, no deflection. I’ve learned that owning my actions and accepting the consequences that follow is part of my growth. Accountability has taught me discipline, humility, and strength. When I face my mistakes honestly, I don’t lose myself, I realign with who I’m becoming.
Taking accountability and responsibility for my own actions, mistakes and choices are not easy to always own with humility or choose the desire to improve after owning failure. All is not lost when we fail. I now realize that I can start over when mistakes and poor choices are made. I’m learning that it vitally important to get up, face the shame, take ownership and responsibility for whatever the mistake, actions or choices were and deal with the consequences. This opens my door to the beginning of healing, starting over and assuring myself that I CAN MAKE IT! Keeping my door open to being accountable and responsible bridges the truthful gap to being real with myself and not choosing to shift blame elsewhere. Character shows up in all of us and speaks louder than anything you or I can SAY, DO, HIDE or DENY.
Dr. Akins, I see here from your quote and context that before I can expect a person to do something I must first, “walk the talk.” In other words, I must be the evidence. Thank you for your thought provoking quotes and your on point context.
Whoa!
The first thing that comes to my mind is that when I hurt someone, I don’t get to hide behind explanations. If I caused harm, I own it, plain and simple. I’ve learned that a real apology isn’t about protecting my image or easing my guilt; it’s about restoring dignity and taking responsibility without excuses or expectations. When I say, “I was wrong,” and back it up with CHANGE, that’s MATURITY. Accountability may not always restore the relationship, but it always restores my integrity!
As always, the word is delivered when I am ready to receive it, even if I didn’t know it. I have long said the word “but” negates the apology that came before it. A true, from the heart ownership of anything that caused pain, requires no qualifier. I am ever grateful for your being the kind of man who shares what he has experienced in order to bless (spare) others. And for any time I may have ever hurt you, from my deepest depth of my being, I apologize. ❤️
This is such a grounded reminder that apology isn’t about image, it’s about integrity. Thank you Dr. Akins for these powerful daily quotes!
Thank you Dr. Akins for your quote’s meaning, strength and clarity of what an APOLOGY and FORGIVENESS really means and truly looks like. I’ve learned that I must first be specific in what I am apologizing for and say it when I approach the person and be completely clear about what I did. Just saying, I’m sorry, please forgive me for everything I done to you, does not bring clarity to the issue or issues that was said or done to the person. Especially when I don’t really know the severity of the damage I may have caused or done even to their feelings. I have also learned that humility plays an important role in peeling back the shame, ego, and selfishness in me for not being willing to apologize or admit my wrongdoings. I need to submit to a selfless attitude, holding back nothing. I need to not rush my actions, but be meaningful and truly sincere. The sincere beauty of being able to step up and be genuine, honest and humble enough to submit to an APOLOGY says a great deal about who I’m trying to become and what my heart looks like.
This speaks directly to my life. There’s something I’ve been reaching for for what feels like more than half my journey, something I can see clearly, yet haven’t fully touched. For a long time, the distance made me question whether it was truly meant for me. But I’ve come to understand that distance is not denial, it’s development.
What once felt out of reach is slowly moving closer, not by chance, but through my growth, my discipline, and my refusal to quit. Every lesson, every stretch, every season of patience has been closing the gap. I see now that success was never hiding from me; it was waiting for me to become strong enough, steady enough, and ready enough to hold it.
So I no longer measure progress by how far away it looks. I measure it by who I am becoming on the way. Because what appears just beyond my reach isn’t impossible, it’s proof that I’m close enough to see it… and disciplined enough to grasp it.
This quote gives great insight and clear meaning and reference to so many areas of growth to SUPPORT how I can achieve SUCCESS. Desiring SUCCESS REQUIRES GROWTH, CONSISTENCY, HARD WORK, A NEW MINDSET and all the other necessary TOOLS defined in this quote’s meaning to travel the road to SUCCESS. How bad do I want SUCCESS and maintain it? That’s my question to myself. Another question to myself is, am I willing to challenge the process and take on all the responsibilities, struggles, duties, hurts, obligations, disappointments and many other factors that contributes to my SUCCESS? Well, now that the meaning of SUCCESS has been carefully defined with clarity, my final statement is, LET ME CAST FEARS ASIDE AND GET STARTED. SUCCESS IS NO LONGER UNSTOPPABLE OR UNREACHABLE. I MUST KEEP REACHING, IT’S CLOSER THAN I SEE OR THINK.
This perspective has challenged me more than it comforted me. It forced me to examine whether I was truly positioning myself or just hoping for change. There were seasons when I didn’t see results, didn’t understand the timing, and still felt led to remain disciplined and stay the course. I chose to stick with it out of obedience, not because it was rewarding in the moment, but because I trusted that alignment mattered more than immediate outcomes.
I’ve learned that positioning is quiet work. It’s showing up, preparing, growing, and remaining faithful even when nothing seems to be moving. What looked like delay was actually development. What felt like standing still was really being anchored.
This has taught me that favor isn’t something I chase, it’s something I make room for by staying in position. And little by little, I can see that the consistency, the discipline, and the obedience are closing the distance between where I am and what I’ve been preparing for all along.
Many people have said, I’m trusting God for FAVOR IN MY LIFE. Now, this QUOTE clearly explains the way FAVOR operates and aligns in our life when we intentionally get in position and stay. Submissive obedience sets the stage. It’s intentional with a willingness to operate under spiritual guidance and authority. The results of FAVOR will continue to flow with continuous benefits and blessings when we establish, embrace, and maintain a right standing and unwavering relationship with The Almighty.
I am standing in this one! This perspective has taught me not to misread silence. I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t acknowledge my growth doesn’t mean they don’t see it. Not everyone will celebrate, comment, or respond, but that no longer distracts me. My responsibility is to stay focused, stay disciplined, and keep moving forging forward without needing recognition to validate the work. When I release the need to be seen, I gain the freedom to keep becoming.
In most cases people see what they want to see. Other times some will appear passive or ignore your success and accomplishments altogether. This quote clearly clarifies the fact that I need to stay focused, grounded and unshaken. As long as I see myself and keep myself motivated, I can keep moving with growth, confidence and purpose on purpose fulfilling my goals. The ability to not concern myself with others and what they choose to not see on purpose tells me to continue to be positive and driven. What I see and value within myself validates me and keeps me driven. Therefore, I will keep striving and seeing the best part of me.
This will challenge me to stop trusting my perspective just because it feels right. I am learning that feelings and familiarity don’t always equal truth. When I take time to examine my thoughts, question my assumptions, and measure them against what is actually true, I grow instead of reacting. Challenging my own perspective isn’t self-doubt; it’s discipline. It keeps me aligned, humble, and open to becoming better.
This insight renders me speechless!
Nothing values, outweighs or Diminishes TRUTH. The value of truth is powerful. When we align ourselves with truth it speaks volume and value to our choices, decisions and character. TRUTH represents us naturally and spiritually. It tugs at our inner man to always tell the truth, never wavering. TRUTH PREVAILS AND REFLECTS ITSELF EVEN IN A SILENT MOMENT AND MANNER.
This one pressed on my conscience more than anything else. It reminded me that once I know better, I’m responsible to live better. At least I should! This ties into my reading block from this morning. As James 4:17 says, “So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.” That means I can’t claim growth and still move in ways that contradict my value.
I’ve learned that my worth isn’t proven by what I show, it’s revealed by how I carry myself, what I build, and what I refuse to compromise. Choosing to show my value instead of my assets is a decision to walk in discipline, dignity, and purpose, even when the world rewards the opposite. It’s not about hiding, it’s about honoring who I am becoming.
This posture keeps me aligned. It reminds me that respect, depth, and lasting fulfillment come from living with intention, not seeking attention. When I live this way, I’m not just seen, I’m known for substance, and that is the standard I now choose to uphold.
And because I’ve come to understand this, I also feel a responsibility to reach back and help younger women see it sooner than I did, to show them that their value is already within them, and that living with self-respect, wisdom, and purpose will carry them further than any moment of attention ever could.
Building your value is so important to building yourself. When value is built from the inside out, this elevates you and your character to a whole new positive level. VALUE doesn’t work with just outer appearance, looks or attire, but rather it builds from your personal characteristics that you strive to create internally. Endeavoring to build morals, standards and boundaries will create a whole new you on the inside. Outer looks are impressive, but creating an inner look that shines from the inside to the outside says so much more about any woman and what she represents.
Lately, I’ve been catching myself doing that thing… filling in the blanks, making quick conclusions, reading a situation, and calling it “discernment” when it’s really just me guessing with confidence. And this quote checked me, in a good way.
It reminded me: I don’t need to speculate when I can seek facts. I don’t need to assume when I can ask. I don’t need to rush to judgment when I can slow down and get clarity. Because being wrong loudly doesn’t make me strong; it just makes me loud.
So I’m practicing a new discipline: pause, then pursue.
Pause before I react. Pause before I repeat something. Pause before I decide I “already know.” Then pursue the truth, ask better questions, look for real information, and be willing to learn what I didn’t know yesterday.
And honestly? This isn’t just about knowledge. It’s about growth. It’s about becoming the kind of woman who doesn’t move off rumors, emotions, or assumptions, but moves off understanding. The goal isn’t to be a “know-it-all.” The goal is to stay reachable, teachable, and stay empowered.
When I have my FACTS correct, then I can align with TRUTH. Assuming, guessing, gossiping, speculating, opinions, short cuts and doubt does not empower me. These negative thoughts, emotions, and feelings only keep me unlearned to the truth.
Allowing myself to be willing to learn, grow and be teachable will break down the negative barriers of being stagnant and unlearned to the truth. I’m learning that the TRUTH ALWAYS PREVAILS. Whenever FACTS AND TRUTH ALIGN, FACTS ALWAYS ACTS and this knowledge and growth will EDUCATE AND EMPOWER ANYONE.
What a powerful quote! This made me think about how easy it is to believe something just because it feels right or familiar. But belief alone doesn’t make something true. I’m learning that real growth means slowing down, checking what I think I know, and making sure my beliefs are grounded in truth, not just experience or emotion.
BELIEF can become so powerful in your mind that it creates a belief in oneself to be reality or true. . When there is no real facts to back up a belief, it holds no real value, truth or weight. Many statements and miracles are mentioned in the word of God, but they are always back up with the scriptures, truth and evidence. Anything spoken or based on belief alone can easily be questioned and even pending in our thoughts of how true could it really be. Belief could also be considered just the small unfinished results of an observation, an opinion, personal experience or feelings. This quote really hits home and brings clarity to my mind. I now see how easy it is to believe something without evidence, truth or facts. I’m learning that BELIEF has to be embraced with FACTS, supported by TRUTH and EVIDENCE to stand.
This quote can just sit right here a marinate! BOOM! 💥
This made me rethink what we often call “equality.” Sometimes we assume everyone wants the same things, the same outcomes, or the same recognition. But real growth has been teaching me that fulfillment doesn’t come from comparison, it comes from understanding what’s meant for me and staying focused on that. I don’t have to measure my life against someone else’s to know I’m moving in the right direction.
This made me rethink what we often call “equality.” Sometimes we assume everyone wants the same things, the same outcomes, or the same recognition. But real growth has been teaching me that fulfillment doesn’t come from comparison, it comes from understanding what’s meant for me and staying focused on that. I don’t have to measure my life against someone else’s to know I’m moving in the right direction.
I am not a carbon copy of anyone…I am distinct and wonderfully made. I realize I don’t need your approval to be who I was created to be. My validation come from the Most High. Thank you, Dr. Akins for reaffirming what I’ve always been told.
This put into words something I’ve been experiencing. Learning isn’t just about gaining information, it’s about applying it until it becomes part of how I live. Knowledge gives direction, but experience gives it weight. When the two come together, what you say and what you do finally align, and that’s where real influence begins.
Dr. Akins, what I got from this is that, in order to be authentic, I must not only teach what I’ve gained from the book, but I must apply and walk in what I know, apply and teach. That makes me authentically me. I always gain something from your quotes and the commentary.
I’m often reminded of the saying: When you learn better, you should do better. So it is as the quote clearly stated that a person can’t do what they don’t know how to do. There is always a method to the madness. I can learn to do better if I’m willing . As I learn I can change and continue to do those things that brings change in my life. Learning how to apply the right tools will always make the difference between remaining stagnant or moving forward with change, motivation and knowledge.
The prework on self is important before the storms of life come, and they will, and do come. Through your teaching I’ve even become more anchored and intentional in my responses. There were times before connecting to BUI, what came up came out. I’m not held accountable for what others may say or do, I’m held accountable for my actions. I now consistently am “slow to speak and quick to hear.” My continued study of The Holy Scriptures and Dr. Akins teachings and my application I have that solid foundation that anchors me at all times.. Thank you!
Wow! What an awesome quote today. I admit that I really needed to hear this quote. I recently experienced a very painful situation where I needed to be prepared before the earthquake. Knowing what to say in a difficult unexpected moment was what I needed to focus on and prepare for to make sure I was ready for what I needed to face. It’s so important and necessary that I stay grounded in the principles to keep me focused and careful so that I’m able to respond with caution and not damage. I’m realizing that self control is very beneficial during any stressful, unpredictable and sensitive moment so that my words don’t cause further damage, but instead reflect my character in a positive way. Being careful will avoid me having to repair unnecessary damage in a painful moment that can be avoided with careful planning.
There are often times when life doesn’t explain itself. Things happen that don’t line up, don’t feel fair, and don’t make sense. In those moments, I’m learning that I don’t need all the answers, I just need my principles. When I stay grounded in what I know is right, even without understanding why, I can move with stability instead of confusion.
Especially on a day like today! This one is real, because getting back up is hard enough, but it’s even harder when people remember why you fell. I can’t rewrite the past, and I can’t control what others think. All I can do is keep showing up differently. Over time, consistency speaks louder than explanation.
Many times in my life, I have been hurt, made mistakes, judged, betrayed, defeated and criticized. Does it hurt? YES! Sometimes the SCARS are very deep. Especially if the wounds came without a cause, unexpected and deliberate. RISING from the ASHES can be a devastating trial and journey within itself because I had to climb out of the ashes and rise alone. Forgiving others and myself sometimes I felt wasn’t easy because of others personal views, but forgiveness benefited me, my healing, rebirth, spiritual awakening, and alignment to walking in my truth and purpose. Realizing that sometimes I
had to stand alone through the painful, stressful process was something only The Almighty could help me through by using the right tools. When I finally was able to RISE, HEAL and SHINE, this allowed me to spiritually see things from a new and different perspective.
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This is wonderful to sit and process. The judgement of your choices is seen and focused on by others, more so that the changes of being a better you. That is ok. Focus on becoming the better version of you. Understand you will make bad choices. Embrace the discomfort and the shame. Note, people will see you for those mistakes more than the changes being made; for, change is silent until it gets loud. By then, you would have already developed far from the mistakes made.
This one didn’t feel like a quote, it felt like a warning. It reminded me that what I repeat, I start to accept. The things I allow daily, even the small compromises, can slowly train my mind to call something “okay” that I once knew wasn’t. That’s why discipline has to be intentional. If I don’t guard my habits, my habits will shape me. So I’m choosing to be mindful of what I practice, because what I practice becomes who I am.
The quote, “That discomfort is a gift.”, is a gift in itself!
What more can be said? What I practice thinking, saying and doing becomes my norm. This was great food for thought and application. Thank you, Dr. Akins.
This quote really fed my mind, body and soul. The complete clarity of the meaning was so fruitful and enlightening. Dr. Akins reminded me that it’s essential to guard my mind and my mental compass and to stay aligned with righteousness. Never fall into the trap of feeling or allowing my mind to drift from day to day into thoughts of wrongdoing which can easily cause me to feel or become comfortable with the doings.
Great read that has me on a deeper introspection path. From now, I will track my daily habits and my thoughts behind them. Yes I have an idea of what I do, but in depth, no. Do we really know. How can we build integrity if we are not aware of the thoughts that leads us into what we believe to be wise but they are really disruptive? This will help raise the delusional shield we blindly walk with over our eyes and minds.
I’m learning that not everything shows its meaning right away. Some moments don’t feel important when they happen, but later I realize they were shaping me the whole time. Life has a way of revealing weight in hindsight. So instead of rushing to label things as small or insignificant, I’m learning to stay present and let time show me what it’s building.
Today was a read needed to help me with full acceptance of what is. For circumstances matters and then they do not. This shows the true meaning of letting go the emotional connection to life experiences. Acknowledge what is, with an eye of observation and not an eye of judgement (which is often clouded in emotions). My practice with this is, stay in the observation mode. See things as is. Introspect how I took it, what I did, how it impacted me and others. Do not linger. Come back from time to time to look at growth and at another perspective I may not have had due to the moment I was in. Believe this is necessary for my journey.
“It matters when it matters, ” is one of my favorite quotes in the book. I really appreciate Dr. Akins full meaning of this quote. I now fully understand its valuable meaning. Going back and reassessing myself first, my thoughts, lessons, experiences, and disappointments through the lens of growth really spoke to me with understanding, empathy, clarity, compassion and humility. Thanks Dr. Akins for this quote’s meaning and the new seed of understanding and knowledge I can replant in the ground.
This has been part of my story for most of my life. There were seasons when I gave, built, poured, encouraged, and showed up, and it felt like no one noticed. That kind of silence can be discouraging. It can make you question whether what you’re doing even matters.
But I’ve learned something over time. Just because people don’t say it doesn’t mean they weren’t moved by it. Just because they don’t admit it doesn’t mean they weren’t inspired.
I’ve come to understand that influence isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s quiet. Sometimes it’s years later. Sometimes it shows up in someone else’s growth that you never get credit for. And I’ve made peace with that.
There were moments when the lack of acknowledgment felt like rejection. But instead of shrinking, I chose to stay rooted in who I am. I chose to keep forging forward with positive energy, discipline, and purpose. Because my calling isn’t dependent on applause, it’s anchored in assignment.
And sometimes, when doors don’t open or recognition doesn’t come, it isn’t failure, it’s redirection. What felt like resistance has often turned into a new lane where I could inspire even more.
So I move differently now. I don’t need everyone to admit the impact. I know the seeds were planted. I know the energy wasn’t wasted. I know the work mattered.
And that’s enough.
Dr. Akins, this quote and commentary is so on point for me. Years ago I used to wonder what I did and said was it impactful. It wasn’t until the young people [toddlers, elementary among others] grew up and came back and I heard them speak or do something and I knew then the impact. I pray I’ve positively impacted others as I’ve traveled this way… and my living will not be in vain.
Thank you Dr. Akins for the encouragement and awesome reminder in this quote, that what I do and do for others matters. It may go unspoken, but not unnoticed. If what I do or did goes unnoticed, I realize that someone somewhere noticed it and benefited from it. It’s such a blessing that validating myself and continuing to keep pushing forward in a positive way is motivating, encouraging, satisfying and rewarding. When there is a down moment of uncertainty, I will remind myself of this inspiring, uplifting quote and meaning.
Thanks again Dr. Akins for another deep heart felt and meaningful quote. I embraced how you explained the importance of TRUTH. I felt the punch line when you expressed that TRUTH MATTERS ALWAYS! The fact that accusations and lies will destroy and person and breakdown their reputation and character. It will deeply affect them outwardly and inwardly causing them to constantly keep having to do more for the need to keep proving themselves and bearing this untrue burden. Yes, TRUTH IS The TRUE KEY. Always!
This speaks to a kind of pain that isn’t always visible. This reminds me that even when the truth stands, an accusation can still leave a weight behind. I’ve learned that I can’t control how others choose to see it, but I can control how I carry myself. Staying rooted in integrity, consistency, and truth is what brings peace. My character has to speak louder than what was said.
How we handle others is one of the most important parts of our walk, second only to self-mastery. This call to maturity in relationships is reverberating in my innermost being and is gently, yet firmly, demanding a godly response by way of transformation!
Ok, this one hit below the belt! Before I offer, I ask!
This is a reminder I’m taking seriously. I don’t want to rush in with answers just because I care. I want to be mindful enough to listen first, to ask, and to make sure my help is truly welcome and needed. Real help isn’t about fixing—it’s about respecting timing, readiness, and dignity, both theirs and mine.
So I’m committing to slow down, to pay attention, and to do this the right way. Before I offer, I will listen. Before I assume, I will ask. And when help is offered to me, I will stay open enough to receive it with humility. Help, when done well, is a partnership—and I want to honor that with intention and care.
This was a reminder for me to stay grounded and not let confidence outrun truth. It’s easy to feel certain about something just because we believe it strongly, but belief without examination can mislead us. I’m learning to slow down, test what I hold onto, and make sure my convictions are built on what is real, not just what feels right. Strength comes from alignment with truth, not just intensity of belief.
The month of February has been a fantastic run with “THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX, BUT LIVING INSIDE THE LINES.” The daily peel back of clarity, unravelling, and knowledge from each quote of the day has been so inspiring, heartfelt, full of clarity, knowledge and understanding. Now, finally today’s quote on Beliefs and Truths just took us home. So well explained Dr. Akins. Thanks for a wonderful start during the month of FEBRUARY. AWESOME!!!
This is a reminder for me not to get caught up in what could be and lose sight of what actually is. I’ve learned that consistency, effort, and follow-through matter far more than words or promises. Potential looks good, but action builds trust. I want to stay disciplined enough to measure by what is done, not what is imagined, and to hold myself to that same standard.
It’s vitally important that my words always align with actions. I’m never going, glowing or growing unless there is continuous action involved in my sayings. Dead words become dead weight when nothing is ever accomplished.
This reminds me that just because life doesn’t match what I see ahead doesn’t mean the vision is wrong. Growth often feels like contradiction, knowing where you’re called to go while still standing in where you are. I’m learning not to be discouraged by that tension, but to let it shape me, strengthen me, and keep me moving forward with faith and discipline.
I’ve learned the hard way that wanting something isn’t enough. How I carry myself in the process matters just as much as the goal itself. Staying positive when progress is slow, staying prayerful when I don’t have all the answers, staying persistent when results aren’t visible, and staying patient when timelines stretch, that’s the real work. I’m choosing to honor the process instead of fighting it. What’s built with discipline and time doesn’t collapse under pressure.
Staying positive, persistent, prayerful and patient is the answer to benefiting and successfully achieving your goals as you stay grounded throughout the process. Thank you Dr. Akins for these four essential and effective TOOLS.
Some of the most powerful changes in my life have come from doing small things faithfully over time. What once felt like simple, ordinary actions, reading a few pages, taking time to reflect, making small improvements each day, eventually began to shape who I was becoming. I’ve learned that transformation rarely happens through sudden breakthroughs. More often, it grows quietly through consistency.
Small actions may not look significant in the moment, but repeated day after day, they compound into real change. Consistency builds discipline, strengthens patience, and teaches you to value long-term growth over quick results.
The truth I continue to remind myself of is simple: excellence is not built in dramatic leaps. It is built through faithful repetition of the basics. When you commit to the small things and give them time to grow, the results will eventually speak for themselves.
I have come to realize and understand the importance of being taught truthfully, correctly and consistently. Your teachings, Dr. Akins are very beneficial, clear, scripture based, committed and consistent. I’m now committed and consistent to receiving the teachings and with that understanding, I’m seeing growth and transformation in my life.
Many things I have learned and applied to my life and have noticed the changes over time. Today, I can truly say that telling the truth to myself about myself, has caused me to better understand and respect the process. Consistency and commitment to the process will reflect an inward/outward CHANGE and
over time a new OUTCOME.
This reminds me that vision doesn’t just appear. It forms when my faith accepts possibility, my belief studies what is real, and my imagination allows me to see beyond where I currently stand.
I have to believe and move forward and work diligently towards what I can’t tangible see. I must be fixated on the completion of what I’ve visualized through faith, courage and hard work. Inspite of the outside noise, I must stay focused and let nothing or no one discourage or cloud my vision… that includes what I say or don’t say to myself.
Who am I? I am ME. Elevated, motivated and purposed driven. I’m not resisting the changes in me, but embracing them and staying aligned in the process as I change. Seeing who I am and being who I am shines differently. So, who am I? I am me. CHANGED, motivated and elevated, but balanced and still ME.
There was a moment when this really clicked for me: sometimes the reason progress feels stuck isn’t because the goal is wrong, it’s because the strategy is outdated. That was an eye-opening realization. I’ve learned that being committed to the destination doesn’t mean being married to the method. Growth often requires the humility to step back, rethink the approach, and move forward differently. The vision stays the same, but the path may need to change.
I’m learning that sometimes there is a shift in pursuing accomplishments. Sometimes whatever direction I set my focus, mind, goals and expectations to can be very difficult. Staying determine to master something
may cause me some stress, setbacks, detours and changes. This is when strategies come into play. I’ve also learned that there is always a method to the madness when trying to accomplish whatever I want or strive to endeavor. It’s important to just follow the process to WIN.
Playing alone is not always a bad game. Playing to win is the purpose. Some people will choose to stand on the side line and watch. Some will never cheer me on. Some will watch me in secret and talk. Regardless to what they do or how they do it, my mindset, my performance and my endurance matters. I must Keep striving! Work harder! Maintain my focus and realize that I’m in it to succeed and win. I’M MY OWN CHEERLEADER.
There are so many personal reflective points for me within Dr. Akins commentary. Being an active participant in BUI has solidified my learned actions or have debunked what I thought was truth. I am understanding more about my behaviors along with my default mode. There are times it’s difficult to look in the mirror and admit truth, not to others but to myself. I’m going to keep taking a look at the woman in the mirror and “Tell the truth, to myself, about myself” Dr. Akins. It’s all about accepting to see it different and then do things differently.
Dr. Akins, in my early years I was infamous in judging the book by it’s cover. It’s unfair and unrighteousness to see a person, and their behavior may be negative and come to a negative conclusion about that particular group. I’m thankful through education and maturity, I very rarely jump to a conclusion about a person or situation. I’ve learned to get as much of the facts and then come to a reasonable conclusion. Read the book before coming to a conclusion.
This Body of work is Brilliant, Something is gonna punch you right in the face if you take the time to read and process this information…💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾
Being able to witness a moment such as this, real-time, is also a heavy hitter, and a great moment to take some great notes!
To submit willingly to be squeezed, to be uncomfortable and coached correctly will transform anybody’s life. I am a teachable, willing example of this process at Better U Institute under the leadership of Dr. Benjamin Akins. Sometimes the process is not easy, but it’s worth the effort and the challenge. Several things I have learned along the way is, if you stay consistent, be willing to be teachable, submit and follow the process and DO THE WORK! Transformation and success will be yours.
A coach cares nothing about your feelings, they see in the person they’re coaching what they don’t see in themselves. Be ready and trusting of your coach who will squeeze you until the best me comes forth. I must be willing to submit to what I’m instructed to do.
Thank you so much Dr. Akins for bringing clarity to this scripture pertaining to “You reap what you sow.” I now understand from both perspectives what this means and how to rightfully interpret it and not to just fear it only, but to also embrace this passage of scripture with wisdom and a prosperous outcome. So, now as I sow my seeds, I will be careful of what I plant and how I nurture what I plant daily so that I can reap a blessed, beneficial and productive harvest, because I now know good or bad, I WILL REAP WHAT I SOW.
My vision, work, focus, financial stability, creative ability, accomplishments and other necessary qualities are very important and matters to building a life for myself and my generation and generations to come. It matters now and will continue to matter. The project, tools and process has been clearly explained in this quote and meaning. I must remember that I am not building, accomplishing and working for myself, but for my generations after me. . I MUST STAY FOCUSED AND DO THE WORK.
Becoming who and what I am meant to be was no accident. This is what I have been taught. I have also learned that my seeds were was created and planted in my DNA from the beginning of my existence. I have to study, search and work hard to discover my identity, work and purpose. These precious seeds were planted in me by the Almighty not just to lay dormant, but to produce a harvest meaningful and full of purpose. This task requires me to be purpose driven with a desire to transform my life naturally and spiritually. My willingness to see and do things differently as I’m being coached, challenged, motivated and disciplined. Seeking change, new opportunities, discipline, directions and experiences will open my eyes to a new beginning, outlook, growth and discovery of MYSELF from the inside/out. Then, I can move forward in planting, nurturing, growing and receiving an abundant harvest.
FEAR!!! Am I ready to confront it? Am I ready to challenge it? Am I ready to leverage it? Perhaps I could even ask myself am I too afraid of FEAR? Do I feel it stalking me? Well, through this quote, I’ve learned that FEAR can motivate me to push into what I want to do or achieve. It is in many cases the TOOL I need to drive me into my purpose. It can give me a sense of direction as I continue to trust the process. FEAR is that part of itself that keeps whispering in my F……..EAR to DO IT! KEEP GOING!!! DO THE WORK!!!!…… FEAR!…. I FINALLY…. H…EAR YOU!
Thank you Dr. Akins! You couldn’t have said this any better. GARBAGE, regardless of how it’s delivered should always remain in the TRASH. Curiosity or just seeking to be entertained, engaged or wanting to know will make you dirty just from going through any TRASH. Some TRASH can easily sneak into my life if I don’t stay focused, clean and spiritually aligned. Much appreciated information.
This hit me in a real way. I was just having a conversation with my product distributor about my daughter graduating soon, and he shared how his daughter wants to do hair but does not want to go to school or do the leg work. In that moment, it reminded me how many people want the outcome, but not the process that produces it.
I have learned that anything meaningful comes with a cost. There is a level of sacrifice, discipline, and pressure that cannot be avoided. It is not always comfortable. It does not always feel good. But it is necessary.
I see it clearly now. The process is not designed to be sweet. It is designed to strengthen you. You cannot skip the bitterness and still expect the reward. Growth requires you to stay committed even when it feels heavy, even when it feels hard.
I am choosing to respect the process, not avoid it. Because I understand now… the very thing that feels uncomfortable is the very thing that is producing something greater in me.
This quote and the commentary has pulled me into deep thought about decisions I’ve made in the past. Were all of them well thought out? What were the repercussions? Did I suffer negatively or did I positively gain? This was food for thought.
I have learned that making something easier does not make someone willing. That truth forced me to stop overextending myself, trying to simplify things for people who were never going to move in the first place. It helped me see that not every delay is about difficulty, some of it is about discipline, desire, and personal responsibility.
At the same time, this made me look at myself. There are areas in my life where the path is clear, the steps are simple, and the opportunity is right in front of me, yet movement still requires a decision. I cannot call it hard if I have not even committed. I have to be honest about what is really holding me back. I understand now that ease is not the answer, alignment is. When my mindset is right, I move. When it is not, even the simplest step can feel like too much. So I am choosing to stop expecting ease to produce results. I am choosing to move with intention, discipline, and accountability. Because at the end of the day, it is not about what is available, it is about what I am willing to do.
As a formal leader in the corporate world, presently a leader in Christendom, I’ve had the opportunity to work with various people on many levels. I’ve seen individuals be given tasks and they excel and then a set of other individuals be given the same directives and instructions and the results were unacceptable. Was it because the leader gave misguided instructions or did I give a task that was not suited for the group? Through experience I’ve come to realize that regardless to how explicit and detailed directives may be, some people just won’t do what they can do. Another thing I’ve come to realize what’s in a person comes out in what they do.
Let me say it like this.
I had to stop looking at life like something that was happening to me… and start recognizing it as something that was constantly responding to me. That shift changed everything. Because it made me realize that every moment, every experience, every challenge was not random, it was revealing how I show up when it is time to grow.
I have seen myself in every one of those categories at different times. There were moments I applied what I learned and moved forward quickly. There were moments I believed, but still struggled to execute consistently. And if I am honest, there were moments I hesitated, questioned, or made things heavier than they needed to be.
But what stands out to me now is this, nothing was ever hidden from me. The lessons were always there. The opportunities were always there. The difference was in my response.
I understand now that growth is not about what I hear. It is about what I do with what I hear. It is about whether I choose to lean in when it is uncomfortable or step back when it requires more from me.
So I am not asking myself what kind of student I am anymore…
I am asking myself how I am showing up today.
Because I know this now, every day I have the ability to shift, to apply, to execute, and to move forward with intention. The classroom is still open. The lesson is still in front of me.
And this time, I am choosing to show up differently.
What a great reminder of the opportunities that are placed before. We’ve prayed for a breakthrough, for a means to better our situation, for another income stream and then we’re presented with the very thing that could change the trajectory of our life and we reject it.
I’m glad I was presented with the opportunity to be part of a growing and promising community, and I connected. I see where PlanNet Marketing is going to change the life of others who like myself take a step toward possibility. In other words, “Don’t judge the book by the cover.” Opportunity knocks, will we carpe diem… seize the moment?
I have lived long enough to know that integrity and reputation are not the same thing. One is rooted in truth. The other is rooted in perception. And there comes a point where you have to decide which one will govern your life.
I have felt that tension personally. There have been moments when doing what was right did not make me look right in the eyes of others. Moments when staying true to principle risked misunderstanding, distance, or disapproval. That is not easy. But it taught me something I cannot unlearn, reputation may shape how people see me, but integrity shapes who I am when nobody is looking.
What stands out to me most is that reputation can be repaired, but integrity, once compromised, costs something much deeper. That is why I have come to value inner alignment over outer approval. I would rather be at peace with my conscience than applauded for something that required me to betray myself.
So this makes me stop and ask a real question: when pressure is applied, what am I actually protecting, my image or my character? Because that answer reveals more than any words ever could.
And for me, the choice is becoming clearer. I cannot build anything lasting on approval. I have to build it on truth. I have to live in a way that protects my integrity, even when it puts my reputation at risk.
Because in the end, I can recover from being misunderstood.
But I never want to recover from abandoning what I know is right.
Before I ever look outward, I have learned to look inward. That phrase, you know who YOU are, does not start with anyone else. It starts with me. It meets me in quiet moments, in honest moments, in those spaces where I cannot hide behind explanations or appearances.
I have had to sit with it. Not rush past it. Not soften it. Just face it.
Because the truth is, I already know. I know when I am aligned. I know when I am drifting. I know when I am showing up fully, and I know when I am negotiating with myself. That awareness does not need an audience. It does not need validation. It requires honesty.
What this has taught me is that real accountability is personal before it is ever public. I cannot call anything out in others if I am unwilling to correct it within myself. So I check me first. I confront me first. I refine me first.
And I am learning to receive that phrase in both ways. There are moments it affirms me, reminding me to stand firm in who I am. And there are moments it corrects me, quietly calling me back to alignment. Either way, it speaks truth.
So now, I carry it differently. Not as judgment, but as responsibility. Not as pressure, but as awareness.
Because when I truly know who I am, I do not need to announce it.
My decisions reveal it. My discipline reflects it. My consistency confirms it.
And every day, I am choosing to become more aligned with that truth, doing my best and still committed to improving.
It’s my responsibility to do a self internal examination and then take a long hard look in the mirror. Once that examination has been completed it becomes my responsibility to be truthful with myself. Work on the internal and the external will become what I’ve been created to be. I can not allow external influences to obstruct what I must work on. It’s hard work but well worth it.
One of the dangers today is comparing ones self to what I see that’s popular. I must be my authentic self, don’t compare and don’t try to mimic what I see. I’m happier being me and not trying to be someone or something I’m not meant to be.
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Those small hairline cracks will eventually widen and what I may have treasured is now trickling out. I must immediately repair the cracks and allow what I’ve learned to take root and flourish. I must never deny my feelings… my feelings are real top me. It’s my responsibly to see it, admit I have a flaw and then after the repair hold on to what is good and profitable and move forward.
I have noticed something about myself that I had to confront. I can be quick to label a situation before I truly take the time to understand it. When something feels uncomfortable or does not go the way I expected, my first instinct is to call it a setback or something that should not have happened.
But I am learning to pause.
Because I realize now I am not just experiencing life, I am interpreting it. And how I interpret it shapes what I do next.
There have been moments where I could have allowed frustration to slow me down or even stop me. But I have also seen what happens when I shift my perspective and ask a different question. Instead of asking why this is happening, I ask what this is developing in me. That alone changes everything.
I see my role more clearly now. I am not just going through situations, I am assigning meaning to them. And that meaning is either going to limit me or grow me.
So I am becoming more intentional with how I see. Not everything that slows me down is meant to stop me. Some things are stretching me, strengthening me, and preparing me in ways I would not have chosen on my own. And if I am honest, some of my greatest growth came from moments I once wanted to avoid.
Now I approach things differently.
When I face challenges, I do not rush to label them. I take a moment and decide how I am going to use them. I am learning not to trip over what is placed in my path, but to step on it and move forward.
Because I understand this now. What I see determines how I move, and how I move is shaping who I am becoming.
And I am choosing to grow.
Many times how I view a task or approach it is how I define it. Having a positive attitude is so important to the press within me. There were times I thought something was hard just from observing it and it wasn’t. Every situation, goal or experience has to be measured, evaluated and tested. Nothing is ever accomplished with negativity as a crutch or with critical thinking. My mind is a
battle ground. I must control it constantly and allow myself to keep it free of harmful thoughts and unnecessary distractions. What I allow in is what I will produce or manifest.
I’ve been strengthen and was able to make wiser decisions because I learned well the lessons through the mistakes I’ve made. I’ve been told a fool doesn’t learn a valuable lesson after he’s gone through the consequences of his mistake[s].
History at one time was not my forte, but I’ve come to realize history is the bedrock of making the right or wrong decisions. Seeing the mistakes of others have assisted me in seeking sound counsel thus having guidance and a view point that I may or may not agree with. Hearing from an objective person, helps me to see it differently and be willing to change my decision.
Becoming who I really desire to be is challenging and requires much work. It’s very important that I carefully consider and choose who I listen to and let have access to me. Being alone is not always bad company. Making wise choices are beneficial to avoid having the wrong people whispering in my ears or breathing down my back. Growth requires me to sometimes disconnect from people who are no longer serving me and who no longer contribute to my growth, development and values. As painful as that maybe, I have to choose wisely over being stagnant or lost going nowhere. I can’t build with just boards. I need my hammer, ladder, nails and all the necessary tools to become productive and successful. Distractions and negative people can hinder me and anyone who is not focused, purpose driven, and headed in the right direction. Choose wisely!
My desire must take on intentional action. I can’t desire something without first planning and gathering the tools I need to succeed. Once I’ve gathered what I need to execute the plan, I can’t stand by and think things into existence… it takes me moving from A to B and continue moving with precision towards my goal.